I Don’t Know What Decision To Make!

“I don’t know what decision to make!” it is perhaps one of the most frequent phrases spoken by people who are insecure and indecisive about life in general.

Making a decision involves taking responsibility for the consequences. It is a task that is not taken lightly, especially when it concerns important matters.

Why can’t we make a decision?

In fact, we all know how to make decisions. The point is that we have doubts about the right decision to make and this paralyzes us.

Making a decision is easy, but only if you are sure of yourself.

But it is precisely our insecurity that prevents us from deciding on our life. And besides insecurity, there are also our fears.

What does it mean to feel insecure?

When we are insecure, it means that we are not focused on ourselves, on the contrary, we cannot detach ourselves from the opinion of others about our decisions.

It is not easy to know how to make a decision if we are based on reasons that others expect or on what they think.

Insecurity will grow in us and, therefore, also indecision and fear. In this way, a vicious circle of no exit will be created that will make us feel more and more blocked and paralyzed.

How to recover self-confidence?

Being sure of ourselves implies having good self-esteem, which is a good relationship with ourselves. This means that we know how to value ourselves, that we know our qualities and also our weaknesses.

Self-confidence is accompanied by a deep knowledge of oneself, of one’s strengths and desires towards life.

How to make a decision?

When we are faced with various options, among which we must necessarily decide, first of all, as we have said, it is important to establish a connection with ourselves, to know who we are and what we want from life.

In this way, we will not focus too much on others, on what they think of the options we have, but only on ourselves.

Second, it is important to take some time to reflect on each option, weighing the pros and cons. We must make a comparison between what convinces us and what instead limits us.

The best way to weigh the pros and cons is to give a numerical score. For example, to determine the importance that each aspect has for us, we can assign a score from 0 to 5.

Thus, with numbers, it will be easier to determine a scale of importance and understand what we care about most.

In this case it is important that the evaluation of each aspect is sincere and that it is based on our personal interests and not on those of other people, because it is not others who have to make the decision.

How to transfer the decision to a practical level?

Once you have evaluated the aspects and the pros and cons, it is necessary to be consistent with the results. In this way, the decision will actually be made.

At this point it is enough to express our decision to others, also explaining the reasons, which are very important to us and which prompted us to make the decision.

After having exposed our decision, we must put it into practice, leading our life in that direction, without doubts and without forgetting the reasons that made us choose that option over another.

And what to do with fears?

Any change in life is accompanied by fear, which will make us question our decisions.

Who knows what the best decision is?